Five Key Thoughts and Principles of a Leader (Part 2 of 5)

I shared the background of these thoughts in on the 5/10/13 post. Here is the second key thought of a leader.

2.BE A LISTENER/LISTEN BROADLY:     There is a difference between hearing and listening. People size you up.  Be a good broad listener. You can do this by listening to people who have a radically different point of view.  The key is not to necessarily agree with them, but to understand what is important to them and what they value.  There will come a time when you will need to work with them on something that is important to you.  Understanding what is important to you helps you frame the discussion. You don’t have to agree with what they say, but listen broadly.

LISTEN DEEPLY: When people come to you or bring you something for your attention or you ask for information, listen deeply.  Take the two words-“listen” and “silent”.  I’m not sure there is a coincidence that both of them have the exact same letters. Speak little and do much.  It is your job to create a safe haven for them to share what is on their heart as well as what is on their mind.You want to invite (not pull) their concerns, thoughts and feelings.

I’ve learned that the bigger the title, the less people will tell you.  It’s not that people are lying to you but everybody has a nuance to the story.  You get the truth but not the whole truth. You have to find what is not being said.  Listening for what is not said, looking at body language. Hear what is not said, pick up on it and we ultimately get to the crux of the matter. That’s why the more important the conversation, the more important it is to look at the person. You learn more on the nonverbal communication by meeting face to face.  The more detached the communication, such as instant messaging or texting, the less you get of the story. Think of it as a continuum. The more important the conversation, the more personal it needs to be.

Practice muzzle spasm- If you have to do most of the talking, it’s bad, they have to search for the nugget.  Iv’e been told “we need you to speak up quicker and say more.”  I get it. I know that this can drive people crazy.  But you need to know that I try to listen first then give my input. I don’t want to stifle the conversation or perspectives from others.

 

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How We Make (un)wise decisions?

Last month, during an executive education session, we were discussing how very smart people can make decisions that, upon the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, seem boneheaded.  In fact, when we analyzed a situation, the most common response was “What were they thinking?”  We humans pride ourselves on being good thinkers and decision makers.  We talk about how we go through a rational decision making process, and indeed, the heart of any executive’s role is that of making good decisions.

In many cases, we think we go through a very rational decision making process: We look at the problem, we gather facts about the problem, we look at alternatives and options,we weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each option, and we make a decision based upon the “best” option available.  In fact, the more experienced we become, we then   think through a mental chess match of the impact of that decision in multiple layers of the organization, our partners, our competitors, and then create a second level of rational decisions based upon what we anticipate are the most likely decisions of the other party.  Rodin’s sculpture, “The Thinker”,  and Descartes, “I think, therefore, I am”  are shining examples of this rational decision making model.  This is the basis of the scientific method. Milton Friedman won a Nobel Prize for his model of rational decision making and the concept of “satisficing” decisions.   The most common of decisions focuses upon receiving a recommendation or series of recommendations from another member of the team.  Usually, the decision is whether to accept a recommendation, reject or modify the recommendation, and then either make the decision or refer it to a more senior level.

Yet recent research in behavioral economics, led by recent Nobel Prize winner, Daniel Kahneman, outlines a series of biases that can distort the thinking and reasoning of even the most senior of executives.  In an article in HBR, he and his colleagues, Lovallo, and Sibony, outline a series of tactics that you and I can use to reduce our biases and make better decisions.

Kahneman, et. al,  note that we have two types of thinking-intuitive and reflective. Intuitive thinking is almost like autopilot-we walk, drive, brush our teeth, prepare coffee, and engage in everyday conversation.  Intuitive thinking is strongly linked with our senses and creates context for different words, phrases, and helps us make quick links between seemingly unrelated ideas.  For those who have “seen this before”, this intuitive thinking can help rapidly make sense of new situations.

Yet, in the background is reflective thinking, ready to engage when we do something new, important, or takes a great deal of concentration.  Unfortunately, unless we intentionally engage reflective thinking, we can be led astray.  If we don’t have experience with a new situation and rely on our gut or hunch, we may get entirely different (and boneheaded) solutions.  For example, take the word, “shot”. For a basketball fan, especially here in ACC country, shot means something completely different than for someone who is an Olympic track and field fan.

Kahneman and his colleagues note that simply knowing that you and I have these two types of thinking and their accompanying biases is necessary, yet insufficient.  In future posts, I’ll outline some of their major points and some ways to dramatically improve your team’s decision-making processes and results.

Source: “Before You Make That Big Decision”, Kahneman, Lovallo, and Sibony, Harvard Business Review, June 2011.

5 tips to effectively leading your team.

Back in 2008, the Wall Street Journal published an article that shared five tips for effectively leading your team, irregardless of whether your team members were boomers, Gen X, Gen Y, or those just coming out of college (some call Gen Flex). These five tips include:

  1. Avoid surprises, especially when it comes to performance coaching,
  2. Be clear about what you want and expect. If you’re not clear about what you want, you can’t expect others to read your mind.
  3. Listen to what they are saying, verbally and nonverbally.
  4. Keep it loose. Try to keep it informal, rather than a formal performance review.
  5. Be prepared-keep notes on what was shared and what you agreed to do, along with what your colleague agreed to do.
Hite also found some interesting differences among the generations:

What lessons have you found that work especially well in effectively leading your teams?

8 Keys for getting the most out of leading your team

Jennifer Reingold wrote an intriguing article on leading your team. She outlines 8 key practices.

1.      Think big with talent.

2.      Be honest and accountable.

3.      Empower the  person closest to the action.

She also outlined some possible ideas to think about when performance review time rolls around. These are some questions you might ask:

  1. Did you achieve your organizational goals?
  2. How did you perform against expectations?
  3.  What are your management skills?
  4.  How are you in working with peers?
  5. How are you at innovation?

Source: The Secret Coach, Jennifer Reingold, Fortune magazine, 7/21/08

 

What do you think? Are there any missing elements from Ms. Reingold’s article that you find are critical in leading your team?

Yes, But Can They Trust You? (Part 3 of 3)

My previous two posts have focused on trust as a leader.  I’ve focused on one of NC State’s Poole College of Management professors, Dr. Roger Mayer. Dr. Mayer’s research on trust focuses on three elements: ability, benevolence, and integrity. I have linked the previous posts on ability and benevolence.

The final leg of trust from Dr. Mayer’s research is integrity.  Integrity focuses upon dependability and consistency with values and principles that others find important.   Dependability and consistency is basically doing what you say you are going to do over a prolonged period of time.  Yet if you act dependably in ways that your team does not value, you lose integrity. For example, you lack dependability and consistency if you are flitting from one initiative to another to a third based on the latest book, article, or management fad you’ve read about.  At the same time, if you act consistently in a way that is contrary to what your team values, then you have little to no integrity in their eyes. This is a critical part of culture.

In future posts, we’ll share some specific examples from GEN Shelton and senior leaders from a variety of backgrounds (public service, private and corporate practice, collegiate, and youth).  I’m interested in your examples as well.

What was a situation where you saw a leader demonstrate one or more of the three legs of trust (ability, benevolence, and integrity)?